Growing up, my father did not spend a lot of time with me. He lived to work and worked to live, all at the expense of nurturing his own children. He also had an uncanny ability to drive my mother almost literally crazy. The word happy is an understatement about what I felt when they finally called their marriage quits when I was 24. “What the hell took them so long?” I wondered. Regardless of my own daddy issues, they would pale in comparison to the children of the father I’ll discuss today. Sadly, I am the only one alive to experience them.
I have had the pleasure of visiting San Diego several times in my life. In fact, the picture above this blog was taken by me. With perfect weather in the dead of winter, friendly people and so many attractions, I have always enjoyed my time there. The name Paradise Hills kind of sums up my opinion of the sunny city. It also kind of implies that nothing nefarious would ever happen there. After all, it has the word paradise in its name, right? But I won’t insult your intelligence or call you naive. Instead I will share the disgusting and incredibly tragic story about Jose Valdivia and his family.
Jose Valdivia, 31
Sometimes impending divorce triggers violence. That was the case for Sabrina Rosario, 29 who at some point in June 2019, filed for divorce from her husband, Jose Valdivia. They both lived in Paradise Hills, San Diego, albeit separately at the time. All reports indicate he had been pretty consistent with his efforts to harass and intimidate her in the months leading up to his crime. A control freak, Valdivia could not accept that his estranged wife was back on the market and his possessiveness got the better of him. He sent a picture of a handgun to Rosario through messaging, told her he would never leave her alone and in response to a restraining order placed against him he said “……is not going to do nothing”. If his double negative was right, maybe the outcome would have been different. The irony about his need to dominate Rosario is that a family member publicly claimed the breakdown of their marriage was due to Valdivia’s multiple infidelities. Talk about calling the kettle black.
No one had a chance
As a father of a young child, I wonder how their children must have been feeling during all of this. Aged 3, 5, 9 and 11, I’m certain it would have been difficult. Within 24 hours of the restraining order being signed, on November 16, 2019 Valdivia entered his estranged wife’s home and fatally shot her and three of their children. The fourth child was also shot but did not die right away. Instead he remained on life support until the family decided to pull the plug a week later. After shooting his family, Valdivia shot and killed himself.
And the award goes to…….
The silver lining in this tragedy is that Valdivia is dead and so by his own hand. Although to his detriment, he can no longer live the experience of being declared San Diego’s Worst Father of 2019.